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When you start a relationship with someone, you will need to participate. So being physical can mean alot of things. Like being physical to meet your special someone for a dinner, being present with him so he will give you all the undivided attention. I had lots of dates when the guy definitely had more things on their mind than just me. So when you are trying to find your soul mate, you need to find a man who will always fill the physical room.  With my guy, since we were hooked on each other, we saw each other everyday. Some couples are okay just to see each other once a week or even once a month but I think those relationship are missing the physical depth. When you find your soul mate you really feel the connection to be with that person every day. If you are not ready to have a relationship to be physical then you will always have that distance between you and that person. This room have depth. You need to really dive in to experience what a real relationship have to offer. I see so many of my girlfriends have intimacy issues. They date guys but they don’t really get into it to a deep level. They usually see each other once a week and maybe go days without talking. It is really impossible to go without a day of talking with your soul mate. So your guy needs to be physical then your magical connection will happen!

The first room is the Spiritual room. This is where you discuss where you belong. What do you believe in.  As we talked about during the business trip whether there is aliens out there, we were both believing that there are aliens out there. How could there be only us on this whole universe?  The odds are against us being the only intelligence on this universe. I am also fascinated with the Mayan civilization and Egyptians. How their civilization was so advance so many years ago. I am also interested in Archeology and want to go to the Mayan city, Mayan Riviera. So we had a whole discussion on different civilization and how we evolved to be what we are today. It was amazing that I could actually have a conversation about this stuff with a guy. Many guys I dated will look at me funny or think I am too serious talking about this topic. But MFH was right into the conversation and never missed a beat. We really connected in the deep level and enjoyed we were able to fill the spiritual room.

There was no kiss on the first date. We just kept talking and that was more than enough brain stimulation. We were locked onto each other. We couldn’t hear anyone around us talking, no bar music and we almost didn’t realize there was a waitress. We were that focused on each other. Once we were in our own world things started to happen. My blond guy started to turn dark. His hair was getting dark brown and his eyes were getting dark brown too.  I was like what is happening??  Then I told him what I see and he said we are connected now. I didn’t get it at first but after numerous dates I get it. Once you are connected with your partner you go into your connected zone that even anyone around you can’t see. It was like a warp zone for couples. It was addictive so we kept talking until we get warped!

After the business trip the first email I get from MFH is subject: “Hello Sunshine!” and I knew he was in love with me. I was like wow, he is actually smitten with me! I was attracted to him but not to the point where I will ask him out. I guess I was on the shy side and always thought guys need to initiate the first move.  His stoic mask came off and he became really down to earth. So we decided to go for dinner. First date!   I was so excited I couldn’t really work that day. The butterflies started to kick in so rushed home to get ready for dinner. Dinner was at a sushi restaurant so we ate and drank a bit. But once we were done with dinner we both felt we needed another venue so went to a coffee bar called the Whip. It is a nice low lit ambiance coffee and restaurant bar that is great for couples to chat up a storm. So here is when at the Whip we got to explore and talked about the 5 rooms. It started off with talking about topics like different human bloodlines, neuro pathways, biological side of why humans conforms a family. It was kind of too serious of topic for a first date but once we got into the conversations, it got really exciting and deep.

We had a business relationship for about 3 years. Then one day we had to go to a business trip together to meet the client. We never hang out outside of business so it was kind of weird thinking we are going on a trip together. We had to fly to meet the client and but I had no idea he expected me to book the flight together so I just booked for my own flight. Then when I told him what flight I was taking, he acted surprised and kept asking why we are taking different plane. I did not really know why it was such a big deal for him but he kept talking about it. I said, “Oh well…see you there I guess”. So the day came and I took a plane by myself to our client’s place and he was waiting at the lobby since his flight landed earlier. So we took the cab and met up with the client. Then the client took us for dinner and then we parted with the client afterwards then we went for a walk downtown. It was after 10pm so going on walk with a business partner was awkward but we started to talk about silly things like is there aliens? and we just kept talking and talking. That is the moment I saw his real side. He was genuine, sensitive and really funny. Then the sparkle begun….

MFH was not the most friendly person you will meet. He does this poker face thing and really actually turned me off for a while at the beginning because he acts disinterest with everything. So we had project meeting all through the project but never really had any sparks. Girls like to get certain attention when you are even in the office so for the fact that he did not even acknowledge me was a bit annoying…but that reverse psychology worked. So acting disinterest to the girl you really want will work for the guy. Play hard to get and see what happens.  So make sure to act tough when trying to get your girl!

After working at the software company, I decided to pursue my own dream to start my own digital marketing business. I had some clients already that were interested in working with me so I immediately looked for a small office downtown. It was a 2 room office with a view of the water and highway. Then I heard from my then boyfriend that my future husband (MFH) was also starting his technology company nearby. We got together for coffee but it was all business talk. Then we had a project together. I was the project manager and MFH was my IT vendor to do the programming part of the project. Was I attracted to him? Yes, he is handsome 6.1ft tall blond and blue eyes.  But being attractive outside is only a fraction in scale when it comes to finding your lifetime partner. That is what all my girlfriend is going through. Meeting a cute guy but with nothing inside to be attractive about. Relationship is like a tennis game, you keep hitting the ball back and forth. So there have to be a perfect balance of what stage of life he is in and what you are in your stage to really match the energy in your 5 rooms.

I am married happily for 6 years with 2 children. I have an amazing husband. Since I met him we have a very deep connection. Many of my friends are still single and have asked how our relationship works.  My friends are attractive, have a professional career and financially stable but still could not find the right guy.

I wanted to share how we can have a deep connection. It is called our 5 rooms. We fill the rooms and then air out the rooms. That is how our relationship works.

With this blog I want to go through my day to day life how it all started to share an insight to how you can find your perfect partner.